Ed, I've joined this thread late but for what it's worth - kudos to you. This is how I've always looked at this too. There are just way too many coincidences to all of this. My father was kind of like Oswald - a mere nobody dockworker (shipping and receiving) getting by at MAFCO in the Midwest. But it's always been amazing for me to imagine for all of this to happen to a mere "nobody" nut like the official story tries to paint Oswald.
Of course the official story supporters will always continue to say, "yep, that's how it was. Bless Ruth...bless her [Quaker - big emphasis on neutral/humble Quaker] heart."
The real, everyday world just does not work like that. I can live with one coincidence...but that many? Paine was literally glued to these freaking people, yet it's all from her good, caring heart?
One other thing I want to add - for those still supporting the official story...IMO if they didn't hate President Kennedy so much, they'd have a much more open mind about seeing the inconsistencies in the story.